He felt that he lied because he loved me so much; he couldn't bear to lose me and thought I would leave him if I knew the truth. Wow I think I was in the same boat as you I discovered when i was 8 months pregnant that my husband now my ex just decided to start smoking. Perhaps then you can give yourself permission to not smoke. I used alcohol when I was younger…but I have grown up and have taken responsibility in life. His influence and his lifestyle are going to be tremendously negative for a child to grow up with.
Life will go on without him, and for the better, no doubt. It was love at first sight. What are your issues with weed besides the illegality? Aside from the weed smoke I do not see him wanting to live in a place of our own ever, or there for that matter although will deny this, but for now not best idea. We don't care who started it. He has done nothing to harm you. So, you have to decide, can you live with it forever? I do hope they can grow from it and move on. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.
His brothers, like your boyfriends, also introduced him to weed. It comes down to integrity. Just becareful and get the help and counseling right away. You can't control anyone's addiction but your own. You hope it will go away. What is the difference from cigarettes or drinking wine to relax.
I kept crying myself to sleep, contemplating suicide, and just losing my drive to keep living. A bunch of hypocrites judging away while blithly explaining away their own substance abuse — i. See where he stands, if he's willing to quit smoking, get counceling for other issues and I think you should too and see if you guys can work this out. Those people are escaping from something, just as an alocoholic would or any other drug addict! I found joy still each day playing with my children. I can see his point of view — nobody likes to be told what to do—but I also feel that this is a situation where guidelines need to be established.
It just takes some problem solving and creative thinking. If you really looking for a partner, there are many options and opportunities available to you, and the Internet could be a way that you could have simply hoped. He came to visit me after a month of being away and I found out he had brought his little pen with weed in it. That is the real meaning of trust. However, there may be a point in time in which your need to protect your children out weighs your desire to keep the marriage together.
And that is a dependency, no matter whether you believe the addiction is harmful or not. Since that has already happened she should let it go. They just did not love each other any more. What is it about the smoking that bothers you? I tried being understanding but still telling him to stop, and that didn't work. I don't see that he's lying to hurt you. I love him to pieces, I just would rather, if given the choice, that the piece of him that does marihuana and its ok with doing acids wouldnt exist. I just wish there was a simple way to handle things, but there never is.
I've had horrible dreams of him getting busted, losing his job and losing my family's respect. Sounds like you have a problem with a relatively benign substance that your boyfriend uses to relax and enjoy himself. Have you ever known me to take things to an inappropriately personal level? New Member Joined: Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:16 pm Likes Received: 0 I think it would help you if you made yourself a bit more familiar with 'weed'. Would I feel different if it was legal? At times I have been feeling suicidal because I am so trapped. I am angry, not overly emotional, and I always swore and told him repeatedly I'd never forgive this kind of behavior so I feel like I am ready to close the wound and move onto a less flexible life as a single mom. I've saved my dimes and am battling for custody. Please check my blog out I wrote a Book about this in the hope many other women out there don't have to suffer what women like you and me have.
She has a no tolerance policy, and with her family history and future line of work ambitions, it really is understandable. Can you explain to me what it does? But some how he started smoking black and milds and once I got on him about those then he started smoking the e cig and got back on marijuana. But, I also run a business and am a high functioning person who does not abuse others or expect anyone to take care of me. Why do you hate so much the fact he smokes? In writing like this I'm trying to get out of your head. Now I would love to get your wisdom on a problem of my own.
I choose not to smoke. To me, that makes a difference. Back in the city about 3 months later my anxiety started acting up again and again he offered to quit to help lessen that, so he did. Does it make some people like that sure, but not me. Am I weak because I don't want to sit tight and let him do it in his own time? Days, months, years passed and it never even entered my mind! If one becomes 'addicted' to weed it's purely a mental addiction. But I don't see any money missing so I don't think he is to the point of paying for weed.
The more descriptive, the better advice the community can give you. I would love to hear from someone who has been in this situation, made a choice and come out the other side happier. The baby is now 9. When we got married, we both smoked. A million things he might do. A rare case, I think, where Wendy got it wrong. I began dating my ex about 2 months after he quit smoking weed.