Look up bipolar and money, bipolar and rages, bipolar and hypersexuality and also lying, deception and manipulation. I remember crying about a very vivid colonoscopy-gone-wrong-rape-doctor-story in the corner of the room. You really seemed to nail it. My heart goes out to all of you out there who want to heal too. I was w him for 5yrs n had no clue, the breaking up cycle…. He tells me every one thinks I have gone crazy.
You deserve to understand your actions and motivations and find peace. Although I never tried to rescue him, it was the hurt inner self that caught at my heartstrings. I am staying with a friend for a few days and then going to try and get into a refuge for women fleeing domestic violence and abuse. However, I have messenger to prove otherwise. Not acknowledge them or admit them — that I understand. Also, this has to do with their fear of abandonment. He felt exposed—as I recalled in detail all the crazy stuff he has done and said, which he claims to never remember.
That said my dad has these symptoms as well 4he always apologizes and acts like te sweetest pup The only symptom he is really missing is the money one! I was so relieved when the relationship ended. I know your mother takes care of your basic needs, but I bet you hear about it every day how much she is giving up to do so. Their innate sense of superiority means that they regard boundaries as a challenge — Don't Speed On This Road, You Can't Go In There, This Is For Members Only — they. I feel that i need cou. They just cannot see it. Its embarrassing to say the least He gets involvef in shady business deals and puts the blame on me I picked a rental 500 over budget now were broke? This was my ultimate salvation, reminding myself that I meant nothing to him and never have and that he took everything from me, everything, with no thought at all to my well being.
I lost my mom at 18. Two years with no contact was such a positive journey for me personally. I am so glad that you were able to let go, and that letting go has led you to a new life. It feels like a long journey but worth it. It's just another way he's manipulated you into co-dependency.
Of course each question I asked showed that I understood a lot about him. The journey is not easy but you are worth it. His schedule, his agenda always. Let me be clear, she has no right to question you about anything. I had been conditioned to walk on eggshells for fear of upsetting her. We women are ones who want to control each other all the time along with our man, who we want change and mold to what we think is right.
You see the N as 100% flawed. He would ask how come i never had money. This is a good time for you to think about a future without an abuser. You are not a baby. That is where the light at the end of the tunnel lies. It hurts your children tremendously more to allow them to watch you get stabbed, beaten, broken, and smashed.
I am now on the road to meeting new healthy people, and being able to select who I put myself around, and to being able to leave abusive situations immediately Cheryl-Anne May 15, 2013 Thank-you so much Melanie. I understand that I now have strategies to help me deal with the challenges that place me out of sink with what is, with life as it should be. He just has some of the vulnerable type traits. Doing this in the safe environment of the therapy session was part of learning that this feeling is safe to have and lose some of the fear of it. I have the video recordings of the rage.
I was a stay at home mom, and he worked with a couple friends that happened to be female. When tough times come, he says goodbye. I am not sure its pining. I am getting results, and I am not in anywhere near as much pain. Then his family used to come and solve our fights and he used to touch my feet and say sorry. Life has to be more than this. Can I just mention in glad we are getting along now? And by the grace of God he landed a great Union job.
And the aftermath can be utterly devastating. I ended up paying his child support his phone bills etc… one email even said ………. Often, the result of the silent treatment is exactly what the person with narcissism wishes to create: a reaction from the target and a sense of control. So yes, I stayed as I wanted the healed him but also I really did pity him, he was so broken and such a shell of a man towards the end. I felt so demoralised and felt as if I was being destroyed piece by piece over time. He really was that way, and I do no longer believe that I will be able to make him understand me and see me for who I am and respect me, and love me. The thing is, everyone puts their best foot forward at the beginning of a relationship.