Over the last year, I have come to realize there is something very wrong with my ex. Narcissists are skilled at drawing people in and hiding their true nature, for a while. Later, it is dinner time. Don't give him any excuses to blow his top and thus bring the dialogue to a halt. I just did research about it and for 13 years could not place a name on his crazy behavior.
He was shocked when she rejected his physical advances. All this scares me beyond belief…. We may have been emotionally and practically unavailable, and we know that our children were exposed to abuse, fights, and seeing the state we ended up in. God bless you and all those who seek help here. In England, many people do not recognise narcissism as a problem or even understand what narcissism is. I was married to a narcissistic alcoholic for 16 years; the alcoholic part was the last three years to present.
My reason for sharing this is to say this. He maintains a job because image is everything to him. Deep wounds develop into strong narcissism. I remember a time during our relationship where I started doing research about narcissism just because I was aware that something was off, but at some point I just cut it out, probably because I was afraid what I was gonna find out and just was not ready to face the truth. But all he wants is to spend time with her, as though she is his new companion, very very sad. I know he will fight me tooth and nail for everything he can get from me, but I don't want anything — just out and away from him. My parents were divorced so I had a failed recipe.
She gave accounting for one account only. I especially like the way you used the garden of Eden as an example. I keep trying to convince myself it's not as bad at home as I think it is, and every day I die a little more inside. I hope he can work it out and see the bad his dad is doing. He has people use my identity to victimize my children and tell them mom's cuckoo.
If you get a lawyer who is as much of a bully as your husband, they will butt heads. But he still lives here. All of these fears emenate from inner wounds that we closed down inside of us and tried to protect. You need to be prepared for this as it is an inevitable and inescapable part of being in a relationship with a narcissist. At last it all makes sense. And when I wrote about this I made sure I would take my time to really imagine it, and feel it.
I have seen the most incredible miracles of reconnection even decades after separation occur countless times when ostracised parents do this. I just wanted to let those know that you are not alone and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I believe in this and I believe in changing responses, and above all self care but without some guidance or a network of women, its becoming really confusing. I apologized to my daughter. Jesus, the Son of God, the Messiah can give you comfort.
It's been four years since that moment in my therapist's office, and two years since my divorce was finalized. Meanwhile, my partner let go to heal. Notice a lack of empathy. My wife and I are seperated currently and my poor children are being pulled everywhere. It was a horrible experience, but it was necessary. But Netta did keep the boundary very clear and Harry accepted that he had to keep well within it.
He will dislike people that he believes are inferior to him and will often try to take advantage of those people. I finally took my power back and took control. If you require legal advice, retain a lawyer licensed in your jurisdiction. I sent her a link to your wonderful site so she will be reading it now that the school holidays are here… many thanks. And what about your kids? All I could see was her empowered by the councillor and her finding ways to humiliate me.