I know I can be happy with my partner but I miss my husband. I always thought we could love one and lust another at the same time, but never love two at the same time. The other guy and I helped each other through a lot. Both men were so different it was impossible to tell which love was truer…it was more a question of which one was stronger. I told him I need to be free to be myself and make friends and reconnect with friends and form relationships with whomever I choose. One is everything that the other is not so rolled into one they are the perfect mate. I've learned that it is possible to have strong feelings love, maybe for two people, but we still have to make a choice.
How did you influence each man to forge a friendship with the other? We change through our lives and are different people to the ones we were when we started. Some weeks ago, I would have thought this was something selfish, but now, I have to swallow these very own words as I'm in this situation now. One can argue that they can commit to two people or more people at once. You have to realise that a career women in most cases don't have time for carring for family. In response to the question, I feel that it is possible to love more than one or even two people at the same time - and possibly to love them all forever. All of these things are expectations. I did not believe in it myself, but I am even ready for that, just to be with him.
The mis-wiring in the brain tricks these people into questioning whether they love a person who is actually a true friend. I was so confused, so devastated. A female reader, anonymous, writes 8 July 2010 : It's possible, I do it every day for the past three years. But you have to love one more than the other. We're talking about being in love or falling in love with another person, which I think most people would consider to represent emotional infidelity or, at least, is a good sign of it. A few days ago I asked him if he still likes her an … d he said no, I was so happy!!!. I reconnected with my high school prom date five years ago.
So the two of us found each other in this big world although we weren't looking for anyone , and neither of us wanted nor expected anything to happen, but there was an initial spark, which has slowly evolved. That experience, regardless of whether or not it was healthy, was extremely powerful. You are being terribly selfish. Can we truly love two people at once, or will we unavoidably be abandoning one love for another? They're just waiting for wedding bells. What is wrong with me? And I am clear on the fact that I would rather give up the joy of being physically with him, the painful pleasure of thinking about him in an amourous way, than see him unhappy even for a short period of time.
I met my partner 3 years ago, my marriage was a mess and I started a friendship with a younger man I met. I am in love with someone else and just started seeing them. And understandably, it may be difficult for you to stay emotionally committed to this relationship also, which may leave a void within you that needs to be filled with a new love. I love this man for 4 yrs now and we kiss hold hands go out but never anything sexual i know we both would love to but I am still married. There is an unspoken connection between us and feel that we will always love each other. I have been married to my husband for 17 years and about 3 years ago I met someone through work and all of a sudden everything was different.
So as soon as we think we 'know' them, they change, and we change as a result of their change. I love this other woman so much. I would say, don't blame yourself for being different. If we define infinite love we could say that it is a love that will always add more love. But then a 60 year old man married man answered the door and finally feasted up that he was using pictures of his grandson and then told her that he felt sorry for her and felt like she was looking for a daddy in her life and she was entertaining him. Recently, ive fell for this girl and she has fell for me but ultimately, now this is the important bit, she loves me, but I dont have her heart. I fell in love with my wife the moment i met her 14 years ago and when each child was born my heart filled with heart stopping parental love.
Even if it feels like a stupid thing to do, avoid cozying up with this person. There are some caveats to consider when you're being swept up in the storm, however, because what you don't want to find when the dust settles is you're tied to some needy wuss that drains your life and energy. But our thought of loosing each other really break our hearts. I would ask his friends about it. I started hanging out with the roommate and his girl friends. He told me all he really wants for his birthday is someone to like him.
He told me there were to be no feelings involved, but I fell for him and became wrapped up in him. I had to leave as she was moving in. I think this would be quite instructive for those who are wrestling with this question. But I feel guilty that I am not being 100% honest with them. It happens when you least expect it.
I have someone that loves me and is so good to me and can give me the world. I trust him and he would never let harm get to me. You can put all emotions on a continuum. I drowned myself in work and making new friends and tried to forget the feelings I had for this other girl whiost still being with my partner. You can still love them, but that doesn't mean you have to be with them.